I just found out today my brother and I are a 3 out of 6 match in terms of kidney compatibility. What does that mean exactly? Or even vaguely?
I have no idea. None at all.
Having said that, I was seriously disappointed at not having been a better match. I was hoping for at least 4 out 6.
Which apparently isn't possible. It's either 0,3, or 6.
Even so, I felt like I had failed somehow. Not done enough. Wasn't as good as I could have been.
It's not like this was a test I could study for. No cramming would have made any difference. My own expectations got in the way of what was realistic. Or even possible.
And that is something I have to let go of. This process is going to be long and mostly out of my control. Being a match at all is wonderful. Going forward it's got to be one step at a time and being able to accept what is, not what I want it to be.